Continuing the topic of Forgiveness today. I came across this You Tube Video and felt that it was too powerful, not to share. The music is so soothing, the scenes are so beautiful and the words are words we all need to hear. If you are still holding on to those hurts... Let the music and words take you to a place of forgiveness. God bless you on this journey!
Last night as I was thinking about what to share today for our first "YDB", a thought came to me and I shared it on my facebook page.
"Do you hold grudges? Have a forgiving heart instead!" ~ Paula
After I shared that thought, I had several comment that their Bible studies that day were about this topic. This is a subject pretty familiar with most everyone, and we all know the "right" thing to do. But do we do it like we should?
"Please forgive me"...and "I forgive you" are phrases that should be the first thing we do when we've either hurt someone or they have hurt us. But too often we tend to hold a grudge, trying to 'out wait' the other person. Have you ever noticed how sad that makes you? There is a reason for that.
Do you know who you are hurting when you don't forgive those who have hurt you? Let me put it this way...the way you forgive others is the way you are forgiven. Remember in the Lord's Prayer the phrase "...forgive us our sins as we forgive those that have sinned against us..."
I'm thinking I better be forgiving people with a passion, or I am gonna be on the short end of the forgiveness stick... wondering why my relationships with others seem to be less than great. And besides I'm not a fan of that feeling I get in the pit of my stomach when there is unforgiveness in my life. My plan is to forgive others whether they forgive me or not....it's the right thing to do!
As you start your day today...remember to be quick to forgive and never hold a grudge. By doing this, you can be at peace with yourself.
This is the first day to present the link "Your Daily Best"!
When you wake up every morning, how do you see your day? Is it something that you dread or something you look forward to? Is it just another day of going to work, putting in your hours and getting in rush hour traffic to get home? Is it a day filled with dirty diapers, questions, and cleaning? Are you wishing you could have a good attitude transplant or do you deal with difficult characters all day that need one? Just know that regardless of your circumstances...you are not alone. There are folks out there just like you who need encouragement, and want the best for their lives. Since none of us are perfect, having a source that helps us with our imperfect lives is (as Martha Stewart says...) a good thing.
My desire for this YDB is to give you something that will serve as a positive daily "encouragement vitamin" to influence your day. Since I am someone that has had my share of experiences...I will draw on those as well as from other folks to give you a quick encouraging story to start your day.
Tell your friends to come to YDB everyday for their encouragement! If a particular story touches you, be sure to comment and share it on facebook and twitter (with the hashtag #YDB).
"I have never met a person I didn't like!" That is a quote by Will Rogers that I think can be tweaked a little to say...I have never met a person that didn't make a mistake. We need to keep that in mind in dealing with other people. Everyone messes up sometimes, and we are judged by the way we judge others.
Let's think about the kinds of mistakes that are a possibility ...
1.) There are mistakes that are just completely accidental...what we might consider "dumb" mistakes. For instance, the other day I had waited a little longer than I should have to head to the bathroom, it felt like my bladder was going to explode. (I know TMI) I got up from my chair and hurried to make it in time. On the way there, I made the "dumb" mistake of not looking where I was going and stubbed my toe on the foot stool and wow...the consequences from that mistake were immediate. Next day...purple and blue toe.
2.) There are mistakes of basically being forgetful. If you make the mistake of writing more checks than you have money in the account...you are overdrawn and the consequence are those unbelievable overdraft charges. Or if you have a brain fart and don't pay your electric bill (repeatedly) ...those lights are going out!
3.)There are mistakes that you are aware of...yet takes effort on your part to not make them. If you love Big Macs or Whoppers and fries...you can't make the mistake of thinking you can eat a steady diet of these and not have either weight or health issues. Or lets say you make the mistake of charging up your credit cards for what you think are "good" reasons and then you end up going bankrupt because you don't have enough money coming in to pay what you owe.
4.) The mistake of listening to or trusting the wrong people. This happens to a lot of folks...they don't recognize at the time that this person is leading them astray until something happens. It could mean just hanging with the wrong crowd for a time and getting caught up in what they are doing.
5.) The mistakes that are the most difficult are those that involve hurting other people. These are mistakes that you look back on and wish you could change. The mistake has already taken place, and as you realize that you have hurt other people...you ask for their forgiveness and once you have done that then you have to do something that is really difficult from some people...Forgive Yourself!
Regardless of the Category of the mistake...we have all had those moments in our lives when we made a a bad choice we call a mistake. It could be a small one or a colossal one that causes us to go through lots of pain. Either way, we need to remember it to the degree that it helps us to be understanding of other people's faults. But we shouldn't remember it to the point of being in a constant state of guilt...we have to move past that guilt to forgiveness from ourselves and others. Notice that I said to forgive ourselves before I said others....that was on purpose (it wasn't a "mistake"). If you can't forgive yourself...how can you expect others to forgive ya? Some will, but others won't. Go figure!
I'm sure there are other mistake categories...I'll probably even think of a few as I post this...the reason we make mistakes? Nobody's perfect! Not even you!
Is this a hard thing for you to do? I'll tell you right up front , in my life, it takes a concentrated effort daily to stay positive. I wish I could tell you that I had that negative attitude all under control. But, in all honesty, I can't make that statement. This doesn't mean that when it rears it's ugly head, I have to give into it. It means that I recognize it and decide in my head and heart that I'm NOT gonna let a negative spirit win.
So what is a person to do in such a negative place? My first advise would be to tell you to stay away from negative people and situations, but then again, that can sometimes be impossible. You may find that you are the only positive person in your negative workplace. That's a tough place to be in, but not impossible...just a little more hard "work". I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, realizing that I don't totally know their situation before they stepped into the workplace. When things are rough for some people, because of their attitude and situation, it just gets worse for them instead of better.
Being in this negative culture has caused us to be in the school of thought that everything bad happens in threes. I've been guilty of that....for instance I remember when Farrah Faucett died, that very day Michael Jackson died...what was the first thing out of my mouth? "I wonder who is next? Everything happens in threes!" And sure enough, the next thing you know...Ed McMahon died. Could it be that we are just looking for the other two and therefore we find them? The thing is everyone comes to a place in their lives when they have to face death...it wasn't some cosmic craziness. I'm sure some other people met their Maker during that time....does that mean trouble comes in fours and fives?
So what's my point? I truly believe that life is what you make it. You can "count it all joy" no matter what difficulty you may be going through. I know some of you right now are saying...but wait a minute...what about when you lose someone you love? I remember when my first love "my daddy" passed away. I was so sad, but in the midst of that sadness a smile came across my face when I heard his favorite song being sung. Because no matter how sad I was to see him go (and I was really sad), I KNEW beyond a doubt that he would never want to leave where he was because the happiness here could never compare the the joy he was feeling there.
When you are faced with making your way through a negative workplace (or anyplace for that matter) here are a few suggestions...that have helped me along the way -
1.) Understand that you are not responsible for how other people react...you are responsible for you
2.) Be happy within yourself - your relationship with Your Maker will help you with this "let this mind be in you..."
3.) Be positive even when you don't "feel" like it...it could turn your day around.
4.) Be thankful for the things that are yours, not unhappy for what you don't have
5.) When you can tell that you are giving in to the negative feelings...think the opposite and see what happens.
If you have been used to thinking negative...one question...how's that working for ya?
Start today to consciously NOT conform to the world's negativity, but be transformed by changing your perspective. (not Pollyanna, just positive)
You look at those piles and piles of laundry and think you are gonna drown in them. You wish that you could wave that magic wand (if only there was one) and the never ending laundry would instantly be clean and put away. You find yourself wishing that your kids were old enough to do their own laundry. As that thought goes through your head...another one sneaks in... those piles of smelly jeans and underwear represent a full house.
Someday that full house will be quiet with no children needing their clothes washed. You will then find yourself wishing you were tripping over the laundry if even for just one more day....